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Be The Shiny Man

I am about to share with you a universal truth, the content of which will skyrocket your level of attractiveness.

Ready? Women love shiny things.

From a very early age women are conditioned to be drawn to things that are sparkly and shiny: lip gloss, glitter, diamonds. An ad I saw not to long ago on TV sums it up nicely: “Diamonds – they take a woman’s breath away. Not sometimes, but always.”

I call that breath-taking moment, where everything else fades away and the woman is completely tuned in, the “Oooo Shiny Moment”.

Instead of going into a long thing, let me cut to the chase: You need to BE THE SHINY MAN.

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The woman of your dreams could be out during the day shopping, running errands, on the phone, and then you roll up – Oooo Shiny Moment.

Or she could be out at the nightclub, loud music, lights, surrounded by a barrage of guys, and then she sees you – Oooo Shiny Moment.

Let me explain what this looks like in practice. Imagine any public gathering. In the distance you see a man. He’s having a blast. People around him are having a blast. In his eyes you see the sparkle that comes from knowing exactly what kind of woman he wants, and what he has to offer to create relationships that are mutually fulfilling. As you keep watching him, you notice he loves challenges – Whether its pushing to make the ordinary extraordinary, or rolling up to a girl surrounded by 12 unusually oversized men, he’s the man to do it.

1) The Word “Be”
If think you can trick or fool a woman by ‘doing’ a series of things, you’re dead wrong. You have to eat, breath, sleep the essence of what it means to be the shiny man. With that goes a laundry-list of bullet-proof beliefs and attitudes.

2) The Word “The”
This is your reality and world. You are the one, the only, Shiny Man.

3) The Word “Shiny”
You’re letting your gut-level honesty shine, and your sense of fun and creativity, and your love of people and women shine.

4) The Word “Man”
I didn’t say entertainer, who looks for a reaction. I also didn’t say boy, who hides behind excuses and stories. But a MAN. All the fun, energy, creativity comes from a place of being firmly grounded in who he is.

People often mistake being The Shiny Man with being high-energy… Nothing could be farther from the truth. You can be the shiny man, have fun, and when you roll up to that woman of your dream be very calm and relaxed, look her straight in the eye. You know you’re the man, and you’re letting every part of the REAL YOU shine. She will feel it. And just like a deer staring straight into the headlights, she won’t be able to look away.

Cheyenne
Executive Coach
Lifestyle Transformations

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Jim Collins – Good To Great Review

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This book had been sitting on my bookshelf for quite some time. When I left for Europe it was one of three books I took with me, The 4-Hour Workweek and As A Man Thinketh being the other two.

The amount of research and analysis that has gone into this book is mind-boggling. A research team of over 25 people, headed by Jim Collins, spent 5 years (!) to distill what it takes to make the leap from an average company with average results to an outstanding company with outstanding results – consistently and over very long timeframes. Data was accumulated by looking at revenues, stock value, and by performing intensive interviews with employees and executives of companies.

The simplicity of the concepts belies their power and effectiveness. I found as much a set of things to do as much as I found a set of things NOT to do. The basis of making the transition to greatness comes down to three key areas: Continue reading ‘Jim Collins – Good To Great Review’

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The Secret To Life… sort of

Are you an achiever? Are you constantly pushing yourself to grow and evolve?

If you’re like me, then the answer to the above is a resounding yes. Let’s continue…

Do you often find yourself stressed or exhausted?

Be completely honest…

When was the last time you did absolutely nothing?

Now when I say absolutely nothing I don’t mean procrastinating on facebook, but consciously not doing anything and being 100% ok with it. If I lost you, I ask that you bear with me as I take you through a secret of life that wasn’t clear to me until recently.

Think about what makes life worth living. It’s not the achievements and trophies or the number of girls you slept with, but rather the moments where you felt on top of the world, where you felt fulfilled, where you felt loved and were giving love to those around you. That’s what life is about!

If your journey is one of constant go-go-go and pushing yourself hard, you’ll have a dampened experienced when those moments arrive. Or worse, you don’t even recognize it because you’re so caught up. STOP

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Time With Her VS Living Your Life

You’ve made it - she’s in your life. You have an amazing time together and a good connection. What’s next?

Do you drop your daily rituals and activities to spend more time with her?
Do you reduce or even stop hanging out with your friends?
Do you make her the focal point of your life?

If you were anything like what I used to be, the answers to any and all the above would be yes. And on the surface, it looks like a great proposition. You get to see, smell, and touch her every day. Every free moment is spent with a girl you adore. She makes you happy.

As you peel the layers, however, you discover some new beliefs that are growing in your mind: “Only she can make me happy.” “I need her to be fulfilled.” “If she leaves my life, I have nothing.” And guess what? You give these beliefs enough time, they’ll begin to manifest in every aspect of your relationship eventually leading to the demise of the relationship you tried so hard to maintain.

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Delivering The Goods

You may have seen them – those rare men that are excelling at a rapid pace – and you may be wondering what their secret is. I don’t know, and frankly I don’t care. What I do care is that YOU are excelling at a rapid pace. And I’m going to share with you one of the most powerful mindsets to do that, starting TODAY.

Take a moment and think of the last time you were out being social and meeting people.  Now if I was to ask you to tell me with complete honesty and integrity what level you were playing at on a scale of 1-10, would you say 100? In fact, when was the last time you played at a 100? Or worse, have you never played at a 100??

If you want to get good fast you have to push your boundaries every time you go out. Whether its rolling into a group of 9 guys and 1 cute girl, or chasing her down for 6 blocks to make her day, or deciding to get your second and third and fourth wind when things aren’t going your way.

As you’re answering this you may wonder how this translates into results. Your mind has already begun rationalizing that it’s not worth it. What’s the point, after all, you can go and approach this other girl that’s standing there by herself. Easier? Yes, and in the short-term it may seem like the better way to go. But you will deny yourself the most amazing growth and long-term results if that remains your philosophy. This whole thing isn’t about instant results, it’s about what kind of a man you become.

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The Opposite of Quitting

In my last post I told you to quit. I expect that if you haven’t, you went through the three questions and realized in your case you need to do the opposite of quitting – REDEDICATION.

This is an elaborate ritual that involves forgetting the pities of the past, revitalizing your dreams, and coming up with an invigorated gameplan that you can work day in day out. And it has to begin RIGHT NOW.

If you’re wondering whether its possible to begin later – maybe tomorrow –instead, stop and answer me this: Would you put off breathing or eating until tomorrow? This is YOUR LIFE we’re talking about, and WHO YOU ARE ABOUT TO BECOME. How dare you put that off for one more day? You’re astonishing and can’t afford to squander.

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It May Be Time To Quit.

Quit right now.

No, this isn’t a joke, nor is it a fiendish application of reverse psychology. Instead it is some advice that has the potential to transform your life.

You’ve been on this path to becoming a better man, becoming better with women, and you don’t have the results. Who is to say you ever will? Who is to say you’re going to break through your plateau? If you just kept with it and persevered it’s going to happen. Right? WRONG. That’s playing it safe. After all, you’ve invested so much in this area - time, money, effort. And while I respect that, let me also hit you with some truth: Not only don’t you have the guts to quit, but you’re sucking it up and TRYING TO AVERAGE your way to success - what a waste of your days!

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