I used to be a heavy drinker (and I mean lots!). I would go out to a party and bring a 26 oz bottle of rum if I wanted to take it easy, and a 40 oz bottle if I wanted to get drunk. Yup, I had a talent for drinking.
People loved me when I drank because I was a fun, stupid guy who did whatever and didn’t care. Having said that though, I could never get women to take me seriously or be interested in me. They knew I was drunk and probably thought I was just talking to them because I wanted to get laid (and there was probably some truth to that). Obviously, that’s not a good mindset for women to have when you’re trying to get to know them.
What I realize now is that I was covering up for something when I drank. Like most men, I thought it made me more social and I didn’t get as nervous about approaching women. In my head, I thought drinking was good because it made me more comfortable.
I originally learned about it from my roommate and then later by people I’ve met. It’s been getting a lot of hype and publicity, being a New York Times bestseller. I had heard a lot of great things about the book, so I decided to check it out.
And after thoroughly going through the book, I am happy to say that it is an amazing book and I’m glad I picked it up. It really opened my eyes to a lot of great ideas and a new way of looking at things in life.
The book is all about how to “escape the 9 to 5, live anywhere, and join the new rich.”
Most people spend their entire lives WORKING and looking forward to retirement, which is when they’ll finally get the opportunity to travel and be free to do the things they really want in life. Whereas Timothy believes that retirement isn’t the goal, but rather we should LIVE and ENJOY our lives today.
That’d be great, except most people live in the cultural hypnosis that we need to work 40+ hours per week to be successful and wealthy. Or that we need to go to college or university and then afterwards find a job and work until we’re 60 until retirement.
I’ve been reading the book The Four Hour Work Week by Timothy Ferriss (book review coming soon) and on the last chapter there is a poem that I really liked. I thought I’d share it with you guys.
It’s called SLOW DANCE by David L. Weatherford.
SLOW DANCE
Have you ever watched kids
On a merry-go-round?
Or listened to the rain
Slapping on the ground?
Ever followed a butterfly’s erratic flight?
Or gazed at the sun into the fading night?
You better slow down.
Don’t dance so fast.
Time is short.
The music won’t last.
Do you run through each day
On the fly?
When you ask: How are you?
Do you hear the reply?
When the day is done,
do you lie in your bed
With the next hundred chores
Running through your head?
You’d better slow down.
Don’t dance so fast.
Time is short.
The music won’t last.
Ever told your child,
We’ll do it tomorrow?
And in your haste,
Not see his sorrow?
Ever lost touch,
Let a good friendship die
Cause you never had time
To call and say, “Hi”?
You’d better slow down.
Don’t dance so fast.
Time is short.
The music won’t last.
When you run so fast to get somewhere
You miss half the fun of getting there.
When you worry and hurry through your day,
It’s like an unopened gift thrown away.
For most men, answering that question is more challenging than asking them how to win a game of Connect 4 in 3 moves. Women typically want more intimacy in their relationships, but the problem is that most men do not know what that means. As you can imagine, this is an issue.
If most women say they want more intimacy, we need to know what it is? Out of curiosity, I decided to look in the dictionary. It said things like:
- Close familiarity or friendship: closeness
- Involving very close connection
- Private and personal
- Closely acquainted, familiar, close
Another common misconception is that most men think intimacy just relates to having sex, but do you notice how nothing in that list specifically relates to sex? In modern times, people often use the word intimacy to mean a sexual relations (i.e. I was intimate with her), but intimacy does not necessarily have to be sexual. If you ask a woman about intimacy, you will realize that it is so much more.
So, what is intimacy and how can I have more? Good question!
In my last post I told you to quit. I expect that if you haven’t, you went through the three questions and realized in your case you need to do the opposite of quitting – REDEDICATION.
This is an elaborate ritual that involves forgetting the pities of the past, revitalizing your dreams, and coming up with an invigorated gameplan that you can work day in day out. And it has to begin RIGHT NOW.
If you’re wondering whether its possible to begin later – maybe tomorrow –instead, stop and answer me this: Would you put off breathing or eating until tomorrow? This is YOUR LIFE we’re talking about, and WHO YOU ARE ABOUT TO BECOME. How dare you put that off for one more day? You’re astonishing and can’t afford to squander.
No, this isn’t a joke, nor is it a fiendish application of reverse psychology. Instead it is some advice that has the potential to transform your life.
You’ve been on this path to becoming a better man, becoming better with women, and you don’t have the results. Who is to say you ever will? Who is to say you’re going to break through your plateau? If you just kept with it and persevered it’s going to happen. Right? WRONG. That’s playing it safe. After all, you’ve invested so much in this area - time, money, effort. And while I respect that, let me also hit you with some truth: Not only don’t you have the guts to quit, but you’re sucking it up and TRYING TO AVERAGE your way to success - what a waste of your days!
I decided to read this book because I’ve been learning about the pH balance for several months now from different sources. Health has been such a major focus in my life for the past several months, so I was interested in learning more about it.
What is pH balance?
Just like how your body must maintain a certain body temperature (98.6) to stay healthy, it must also maintain a certain level of pH, which is almost equally important to your body’s temperature.
On this beautiful, sunny afternoon in Vancouver, I decided to go for a stroll around Kitsilano. I found myself relaxing at the beach, staring out at the ocean and beautiful scenery around me. I felt at peace with myself.
Getting myself into that kind of relaxed, peaceful state is very refreshing. It allows me to think clearly and express my thoughts freely. As I sat there, I began thinking.
I thought about how lucky I am to be experiencing this beautiful sight — how lucky I am to be living in Kitsilano, with 7 other positive, motivated individuals as my “mastermind group”, known as Project Vancouver. I thought about how lucky I am to be doing what I passionately enjoy doing, which is influencing people’s lives for the better and making a REAL contribution to the world. I thought about all of the amazing friends that I have. The people that I’ve met in my journey…
Normally, I’m not one to give people “rules.” Everyone is different and you must be true to yourself, but in this case, I’m going to give you a “rule” that I want you to follow (don’t worry, it’s a simple one though). I’ve spent a great deal of time figuring this out and I wish someone would have told me about it instead of me having to figure it out for myself. That’s what I’m going to do for you today!
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