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Dating in Vancouver

Published by Stefan on September 25, 2009 in Dating & Relationships. 0 Comments

Let me ask you a few questions…

Do you have a difficult time approaching, attracting and dating women in Vancouver?

Have you ever been stuck in the dreaded “friend zone” with a woman in Vancouver that you really liked?

Are you lonely or frustrated when it comes to women and dating in Vancouver?

Do you want to improve your social skills, confidence, ability to attract women and have fulfilling relationships?

If you answered YES, then you owe it to yourself to keep reading.

Every Thursday evening, Lifestyle Transformations is hosting a different 90-minute Dating Mastery Seminar on SECRETS to becoming more successful with women and dating in Vancouver, BC (Canada).

Here is a small glimpse of what we’ll be covering…

  • How to Escape the “Friend Zone” With Women in Vancouver
  • How to Approach Beautiful Women… Anytime, Anywhere
  • How to Have a Captivating Conversation
  • How to Kiss Her in 5 Minutes or Less
  • How to Go From the Number to the Date
  • How to Create Sexual Chemistry
  • Inner Game Secrets and Being a Man
  • How to Have the Perfect First Date in Vancouver
  • What Women REALLY Want

Click The Link Below to Reserve Your Seat for FREE at a Dating Mastery Seminar

These seminars are limited to only 15 men who are proactive and aren’t going to sit on the sidelines in their own life. These do FILL UP, so I recommend you register yourself ASAP. Click the link below to reserve your seat:


Click Here to Enroll in a FREE Dating Mastery Seminar in Vancouver

Also, by clicking the link above you will get to watch a FREE 15-minute video preview of the Dating Mastery Seminars that will instantly improve your success with women and dating - guaranteed! Don’t believe me? Click the link above and see for yourself.

It’s time to master Dating in Vancouver!

Take care,
Stefan

Lifestyle Transformations

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Your Experience When You Go Out is Based on What You Focus on

Published by Stefan on February 22, 2009 in Articles, Dating & Relationships and Self Improvement. 1 Comment

This is something that I recently learned that really made sense to me.

When you go out, say to a nightclub, a party, or whatever it may be — your entire experience of that event is 100% based upon what you focus on.

There are only so many things we can consciously focus on at once.

For example, right now you’re probably not focusing on your heart beat, or the many sounds in the room that you’re in, or perhaps certain pain your body may be in (just recently had my wisdom teeth removed ;).  There are literally THOUSANDS of things you can focus on right now, besides reading this article on your computer (different objects in your environment, feelings, sounds, etc…).

In the same way, when you go out to a night club, there are thousands of things to focus on as well.

If you begin focusing on everyone sitting around, being bored, not having fun, the fact the club is empty, etc… then you’re going to leave that place and your experience of it was going to be “boring”.  

If you begin focusing on how much fun people are having, how great the music is, how there are so many cool things going on at once, how much fun you’re having, etc… then you’re going to leave that place and your experience may be “fun”.

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Forget Meeting Women… Go Out and Have Fun!

Published by Stefan on February 17, 2009 in Articles and Dating & Relationships. 0 Comments

This is an extremely counter-intuitive concept.

Most men when they go out, their focus is to go out and to meet women.  It’s pretty obvious.  They just attended an Introductory Seminar, Transformations Bootcamp or Live Workshop, and their all pumped up on their new skillset and new tools that they learned.  They call up their buddies from the event or meet them on the forum (http://forum.lifestyletransformations.com) and they’re good to go.

Maybe they do okay at first, but eventually things start to suck after a while of going out.  The results aren’t there anymore.

Many struggle between meeting women and having fun.  What’s the reason most people give you when they go out after an event?  To meet women.  It’s the focus of their attention.

Instead, this is the wrong way to go about it.  The moment you make your outcome to go out and meet women (or to “sarge” as some weird people like to call it), it’s over.  If you’re going out and you’re talking about how to meet women or these new ideas or concepts you learned on the internet, then the chances of you meeting women and having fun are slim to none. 

The only thing that talking about meeting women does is put you more and more inside of your head.  It makes you logical, attached a specific outcome (meeting a woman), and women can sense it. 

When this is your outcome and you drive home at the end of the night and are frustrated… it’s only because your outcome was to meet women and you didn’t reach that outcome.

Instead, if your outcome is just to have fun, you can drive home happy because you met that outcome.   You didn’t get any phone #’s or anything… but did you have fun?  Yes!  Then that was an awesome night.

NEVER should your expectation of having fun be directly related to whether or not you got results with women.  You don’t need anything external such as success with women to dictate how much fun you have… YOU decide and create how much fun you want to have in any given moment.

If you environment you go to sucks… then that should have nothing to do with the quality of how much fun you’re having in any given night.  The same goes if there are ZERO women around, if you’re out by yourself, or if you get blown out 100 times in an evening.

The way you can always tell when someone is focused on meeting women is when they’re out and they’re looking around for the next woman to approach, because they’re worried they will let one walk by.  This is being overly-attached to the idea of meeting women and is making you outcome dependent. 

Instead, when you’re out, focus on dancing, laughing, high fiving your buddy, talking to EVERYONE, doing silly and playful things, and entertaining and amusing yourself.  When you’re in this incredible state and you’re having fun and an attractive woman walks by… then by all means go and meet her!  But, it’s only when you’re having fun and enjoying yourself that you can create a fun vibe in someone else’s group.

It all starts with you.  Go out and have fun.  Make that your focus the entire night.  You may approach and meet less women in the process, but I can guarantee the quality of your interactions will skyrocket. 

Oh, and if you can’t go out and have fun without feeling the “need” to approach women, then there is something massively wrong.  As an experiment, I’d go out for a few nights and make a decision not to approach ANY women… but to instead just focus on having fun on your own or with friends for a few nights.  Once you have this down, add in approaching and meeting women into your night and watch what happens.

Stefan
Executive Coach
Lifestyle Transformations

P.S.  I know we haven’t posted here in a while.  That is hopefully about to change!  I just had my wisdom teeth removed and this has been a great opportunity for me to do some writing.

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FREE Dating and Meeting Women in Vancouver Seminar for Men

Published by Stefan on December 5, 2008 in Dating & Relationships, Miscellaneous and Updates. 2 Comments

Lifestyle Transformations is hosting a FREE 3-hour Introductory Seminar on Dating and How To Meet, Approach, Start Conversations With, Attract, and Date Beautiful Women in Vancouver British Columbia.

If you are a single man and struggle when it comes to meeting and attracting women, then this is for you…

If you are lacking confidence or social skills, then this is for you…

If you constantly get stuck in the “friend zone” with women, then this is for you…

If you want to take your dating life and relationships with women to the next level, then this is for you…

If you want to improve your personality, confidence, communication skills, and attractiveness - then this is for you!

What you learn at this seminar has the potential to change your life.  Vancouver’s top dating coaches and experts will share with you the “how to” when it comes to meeting and attracting women!  Not only that, but you will learn how to get in the emotional state of confidence anytime you want, which will translate into every other area of your life! 

Seminars are held monthly in Vancouver British Columbia.

For full event schedule, upcoming events, and registration, follow the instructions below:

http://www.free-meeting-women-seminar.com

Take action now and register!  Change your life forever!

Stefan
Executive Coach
Lifestyle Transformations

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The Natural’s Manifesto

Published by John on October 24, 2008 in Articles and Dating & Relationships. 4 Comments

There’s this ridiculous notion that people who learn about dating are somehow socially deficient, that they’re awkward in conversations, or have some horrible insecurity and are unable to talk to women without other people’s help. I’ve always found this concept ridiculous, since most of the students I meet are hundreds of times more charming than the rest of the population.

I’ll use myself as example— I can’t tell you how many women I’ve been with, felt deeply for, or dated (I’ve never bothered to count, suffice to say it’s several digits long)—but I’ve got a couple shoeboxes full of pictures, love letters, and other memorabilia to remind me of the impact they’ve had on my life. In a word, I’m a natural—a man who seems blessed by the gods to be with women; but don’t let the appearances fool you, being a natural has everything to do with education, I’ve never stopped studying women since I realized the power one can have over them.

My first encounter with women is at age 6, when I was called into the principle’s office after a playground fight between two girls broke out over who should be my girlfriend.

“That’s stupid”, I said to my bewildered principle, “why can’t they both be my girlfriend?” (I’ve carried that belief with me ever since.)

Throughout high school, a reputation of charm seemed to follow me everywhere. In 8th grade, after a particularly famous break-up with a cute Asian girl named Vivian, a gorgeous blond girl named Tiffany invited me to her place so she could console my grief. As we made out in front of her door, her brunette friend, Jill, came by and joined in on the fun. My first PG-rated threesome, I suppose. The next day, the school’s basketball star came by to pick a fight with me after hearing the story—apparently he’s been trying to get her on a date for the past year. Come to think of it, every fight I’ve gotten into with other guys since then have been over girls, and I have yet to walk away without the girls in question on my arm.

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Be The Shiny Man

Published by Cheyenne on August 21, 2008 in Articles, Dating & Relationships and Self Improvement. 1 Comment

I am about to share with you a universal truth, the content of which will skyrocket your level of attractiveness.

Ready? Women love shiny things.

From a very early age women are conditioned to be drawn to things that are sparkly and shiny: lip gloss, glitter, diamonds. An ad I saw not to long ago on TV sums it up nicely: “Diamonds – they take a woman’s breath away. Not sometimes, but always.”

I call that breath-taking moment, where everything else fades away and the woman is completely tuned in, the “Oooo Shiny Moment”.

Instead of going into a long thing, let me cut to the chase: You need to BE THE SHINY MAN.

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The woman of your dreams could be out during the day shopping, running errands, on the phone, and then you roll up – Oooo Shiny Moment.

Or she could be out at the nightclub, loud music, lights, surrounded by a barrage of guys, and then she sees you – Oooo Shiny Moment.

Let me explain what this looks like in practice. Imagine any public gathering. In the distance you see a man. He’s having a blast. People around him are having a blast. In his eyes you see the sparkle that comes from knowing exactly what kind of woman he wants, and what he has to offer to create relationships that are mutually fulfilling. As you keep watching him, you notice he loves challenges – Whether its pushing to make the ordinary extraordinary, or rolling up to a girl surrounded by 12 unusually oversized men, he’s the man to do it.

1) The Word “Be”
If think you can trick or fool a woman by ‘doing’ a series of things, you’re dead wrong. You have to eat, breath, sleep the essence of what it means to be the shiny man. With that goes a laundry-list of bullet-proof beliefs and attitudes.

2) The Word “The”
This is your reality and world. You are the one, the only, Shiny Man.

3) The Word “Shiny”
You’re letting your gut-level honesty shine, and your sense of fun and creativity, and your love of people and women shine.

4) The Word “Man”
I didn’t say entertainer, who looks for a reaction. I also didn’t say boy, who hides behind excuses and stories. But a MAN. All the fun, energy, creativity comes from a place of being firmly grounded in who he is.

People often mistake being The Shiny Man with being high-energy… Nothing could be farther from the truth. You can be the shiny man, have fun, and when you roll up to that woman of your dream be very calm and relaxed, look her straight in the eye. You know you’re the man, and you’re letting every part of the REAL YOU shine. She will feel it. And just like a deer staring straight into the headlights, she won’t be able to look away.

Cheyenne
Executive Coach
Lifestyle Transformations

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You’re Telling Her The Biggest Load of Crap With Your Words

Published by Heidi Naomi on July 27, 2008 in Articles and Dating & Relationships. 2 Comments

I just had a very interesting meeting with a gorgeous and intelligent gentleman, however he had the worst attitude and mannerisms that I have ever witnessed in any social setting – and Lord knows that I have seen some horrific habits!

Being the curious and outspoken individual that I am – I deliberately steered the topic of discussion away from business and directed it towards his personal life. It turned out that he owned some very nice toys, a closet full of designer labels and a mansion in the British Properties, but he’d probably only been on three meaningful dates in his entire 32 years of existence! I couldn’t believe that a man with a face like THAT was unable to attract females of all sorts. My question to him was, “What do you think your problem is?” His answer: “I have no idea – maybe you could tell me.” Of course he thought I was flirting with him, until I happened to mention that I am a perception coach. This is when the light bulb finally went on in his head, and he caught on to the motives behind my questions. It had never occurred to him that his handshake, body posture, facial expressions, hand gestures and lack of eye contact were the cause of all his troubles with the female race.

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Get Out Of Your Head

Published by Stefan on July 15, 2008 in Articles and Dating & Relationships. 1 Comment

Hey, I haven’t updated here in a while.  The entire Lifestyle Transformations crew has been super busy with a billion other things going on.  But, don’t worry — we haven’t forgot our loyal readers!

I want to quickly talk about a topic that is super common amongst guys that go out to meet people and socialize.

We just recently finished a kick ass 3-day immersion Transformations Bootcamp weekend and the result was incredible.  It was a total transformation for each individual that attended.  It really is remarkable to witness this stuff and to be responsible for creating such a radical change in someones life.

Anyway, one of the most common sticking points that guys face is getting too logical and stuck inside their heads.

It’s that compulsive thinking that prevents you from flowing and being completely spontaneous, in the moment.

People are too busy getting caught up inside their heads — THINKING. 

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Time With Her VS Living Your Life

Published by Cheyenne on June 10, 2008 in Dating & Relationships and Self Improvement. 1 Comment

You’ve made it - she’s in your life. You have an amazing time together and a good connection. What’s next?

Do you drop your daily rituals and activities to spend more time with her?
Do you reduce or even stop hanging out with your friends?
Do you make her the focal point of your life?

If you were anything like what I used to be, the answers to any and all the above would be yes. And on the surface, it looks like a great proposition. You get to see, smell, and touch her every day. Every free moment is spent with a girl you adore. She makes you happy.

As you peel the layers, however, you discover some new beliefs that are growing in your mind: “Only she can make me happy.” “I need her to be fulfilled.” “If she leaves my life, I have nothing.” And guess what? You give these beliefs enough time, they’ll begin to manifest in every aspect of your relationship eventually leading to the demise of the relationship you tried so hard to maintain.

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FREE Lifestyle Transformations Seminar in Vancouver

Published by Stefan on April 22, 2008 in Dating & Relationships, Miscellaneous, Self Improvement and Updates. 1 Comment

On Saturday, May 10th 2008, Lifestyle Transformations will be hosting a FREE seminar which will be held in Vancouver, BC.

These free events don’t come by very often.  The last one we did was back in January with Zan Perrion, which turned out to be a massive success with a ton of feedback.  Everyone walked away happy and gained a lot of new insights and received a lot of value.

That is our purpose — to offer value.  And I can guarantee, during this event we will not disappoint.

The seminar will be around 3 hours long and there will be 4 speakers.  Jason, Cheyenne, Stefan and one of the newest members of our team (whose name I won’t disclose yet).

If you want to receive a ton of value for FREE, while meeting the best dating coaches that Vancouver has to offer, as well as network and connect with a ton of likeminded individuals, then you can’t miss out.

Our last free event had over 40 people attend.  This one we’re expecting it to explode past our expectations.

The focus is going to be on dating and meeting women.  We’re going to teach and share with you guys our personal SECRETS that will rocketfuel your success with not only women and dating, but life in general.  And I can promise you that noone else in the community is teaching this stuff.  Mark my words, these 3 hours will be the BEST investment in time you could possibly make.

How do you register?  Simply click this link and visit

http://www.lifestyletransformations.com/freeseminar.php

The event is FREE, however we are collecting a $20 deposit from all attendee’s which will be refunded to them at the end of the event.  This basically ensures that you will show up, holds you accountable, and gives us a clear idea of how many people we can expect so that we don’t overbook the room (the room fits 90 people and could possibly sell out).

There will also be a FREE DRAW for a Lifestyle Transformations In-Field Workshop held on the same weekend after the seminar.

So again, go to http://www.lifestyletransformations.com/freeseminar.php to register your spot.

Here are a few testimonials for those that have attended our events…

“I want to thank Jason, Cheyenne, and Stefan for giving up their time to teach me a few things. They exude a positive light and welcoming energy. What sets these guys apart from others is their philosophy for always giving a value to the world which is genuine and also quite humbling.

If you’re tired of mundane success, and want to quickly and drastically improve your lifestyle, Lifestyle Transformations is true to their name. Check them out.”
    Jason C, Vancouver

“Lifestyle Transformations… offers to help guys get their act together - not just with women, but in all areas of life.”
    The Georgia Straight

“The results speak for themselves. After only a couple of hours of coaching, I was transformed from being afraid of approaching girls, to having absolutely zero fear at all. The following weekend I met many girls during the day and night, without Stefan’s supervision, including one I like a very much, and who I shall meet this weekend. I like to think it was me who made this change in myself, but it wouldn’t have happened without Stefan guiding me.”
    Andrew, Ireland

“Jason and Stefan are two great guys who just want to help the average man achieve success with the female gender. I was amazed by what I learned in terms of scenarios and words that I could say to women, in what I never knew before I met these fine gentlemen. I’m happy I have met Jason and Stefan and the experience I had will always be with me as I continue to find love and happiness.”
    Benjamin the Butler, the Beat 94.5

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