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Be The Shiny Man

Published by Cheyenne on August 21, 2008 in Articles, Dating & Relationships and Self Improvement. 0 Comments

I am about to share with you a universal truth, the content of which will skyrocket your level of attractiveness.

Ready? Women love shiny things.

From a very early age women are conditioned to be drawn to things that are sparkly and shiny: lip gloss, glitter, diamonds. An ad I saw not to long ago on TV sums it up nicely: “Diamonds – they take a woman’s breath away. Not sometimes, but always.”

I call that breath-taking moment, where everything else fades away and the woman is completely tuned in, the “Oooo Shiny Moment”.

Instead of going into a long thing, let me cut to the chase: You need to BE THE SHINY MAN.

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The woman of your dreams could be out during the day shopping, running errands, on the phone, and then you roll up – Oooo Shiny Moment.

Or she could be out at the nightclub, loud music, lights, surrounded by a barrage of guys, and then she sees you – Oooo Shiny Moment.

Let me explain what this looks like in practice. Imagine any public gathering. In the distance you see a man. He’s having a blast. People around him are having a blast. In his eyes you see the sparkle that comes from knowing exactly what kind of woman he wants, and what he has to offer to create relationships that are mutually fulfilling. As you keep watching him, you notice he loves challenges – Whether its pushing to make the ordinary extraordinary, or rolling up to a girl surrounded by 12 unusually oversized men, he’s the man to do it.

1) The Word “Be”
If think you can trick or fool a woman by ‘doing’ a series of things, you’re dead wrong. You have to eat, breath, sleep the essence of what it means to be the shiny man. With that goes a laundry-list of bullet-proof beliefs and attitudes.

2) The Word “The”
This is your reality and world. You are the one, the only, Shiny Man.

3) The Word “Shiny”
You’re letting your gut-level honesty shine, and your sense of fun and creativity, and your love of people and women shine.

4) The Word “Man”
I didn’t say entertainer, who looks for a reaction. I also didn’t say boy, who hides behind excuses and stories. But a MAN. All the fun, energy, creativity comes from a place of being firmly grounded in who he is.

People often mistake being The Shiny Man with being high-energy… Nothing could be farther from the truth. You can be the shiny man, have fun, and when you roll up to that woman of your dream be very calm and relaxed, look her straight in the eye. You know you’re the man, and you’re letting every part of the REAL YOU shine. She will feel it. And just like a deer staring straight into the headlights, she won’t be able to look away.

Cheyenne
Executive Coach
Lifestyle Transformations

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You’re Telling Her The Biggest Load of Crap With Your Words

Published by Heidi Naomi on July 27, 2008 in Articles and Dating & Relationships. 0 Comments

I just had a very interesting meeting with a gorgeous and intelligent gentleman, however he had the worst attitude and mannerisms that I have ever witnessed in any social setting – and Lord knows that I have seen some horrific habits!

Being the curious and outspoken individual that I am – I deliberately steered the topic of discussion away from business and directed it towards his personal life. It turned out that he owned some very nice toys, a closet full of designer labels and a mansion in the British Properties, but he’d probably only been on three meaningful dates in his entire 32 years of existence! I couldn’t believe that a man with a face like THAT was unable to attract females of all sorts. My question to him was, “What do you think your problem is?” His answer: “I have no idea – maybe you could tell me.” Of course he thought I was flirting with him, until I happened to mention that I am a perception coach. This is when the light bulb finally went on in his head, and he caught on to the motives behind my questions. It had never occurred to him that his handshake, body posture, facial expressions, hand gestures and lack of eye contact were the cause of all his troubles with the female race.

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Get Out Of Your Head

Published by Stefan on July 15, 2008 in Articles and Dating & Relationships. 2 Comments

Hey, I haven’t updated here in a while.  The entire Lifestyle Transformations crew has been super busy with a billion other things going on.  But, don’t worry — we haven’t forgot our loyal readers!

I want to quickly talk about a topic that is super common amongst guys that go out to meet people and socialize.

We just recently finished a kick ass 3-day immersion Transformations Bootcamp weekend and the result was incredible.  It was a total transformation for each individual that attended.  It really is remarkable to witness this stuff and to be responsible for creating such a radical change in someones life.

Anyway, one of the most common sticking points that guys face is getting too logical and stuck inside their heads.

It’s that compulsive thinking that prevents you from flowing and being completely spontaneous, in the moment.

People are too busy getting caught up inside their heads — THINKING. 

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Time With Her VS Living Your Life

Published by Cheyenne on June 10, 2008 in Dating & Relationships and Self Improvement. 1 Comment

You’ve made it - she’s in your life. You have an amazing time together and a good connection. What’s next?

Do you drop your daily rituals and activities to spend more time with her?
Do you reduce or even stop hanging out with your friends?
Do you make her the focal point of your life?

If you were anything like what I used to be, the answers to any and all the above would be yes. And on the surface, it looks like a great proposition. You get to see, smell, and touch her every day. Every free moment is spent with a girl you adore. She makes you happy.

As you peel the layers, however, you discover some new beliefs that are growing in your mind: “Only she can make me happy.” “I need her to be fulfilled.” “If she leaves my life, I have nothing.” And guess what? You give these beliefs enough time, they’ll begin to manifest in every aspect of your relationship eventually leading to the demise of the relationship you tried so hard to maintain.

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FREE Lifestyle Transformations Seminar in Vancouver

Published by Stefan on April 22, 2008 in Dating & Relationships, Miscellaneous, Self Improvement and Updates. 1 Comment

On Saturday, May 10th 2008, Lifestyle Transformations will be hosting a FREE seminar which will be held in Vancouver, BC.

These free events don’t come by very often.  The last one we did was back in January with Zan Perrion, which turned out to be a massive success with a ton of feedback.  Everyone walked away happy and gained a lot of new insights and received a lot of value.

That is our purpose — to offer value.  And I can guarantee, during this event we will not disappoint.

The seminar will be around 3 hours long and there will be 4 speakers.  Jason, Cheyenne, Stefan and one of the newest members of our team (whose name I won’t disclose yet).

If you want to receive a ton of value for FREE, while meeting the best dating coaches that Vancouver has to offer, as well as network and connect with a ton of likeminded individuals, then you can’t miss out.

Our last free event had over 40 people attend.  This one we’re expecting it to explode past our expectations.

The focus is going to be on dating and meeting women.  We’re going to teach and share with you guys our personal SECRETS that will rocketfuel your success with not only women and dating, but life in general.  And I can promise you that noone else in the community is teaching this stuff.  Mark my words, these 3 hours will be the BEST investment in time you could possibly make.

How do you register?  Simply click this link and visit

http://www.lifestyletransformations.com/freeseminar.php

The event is FREE, however we are collecting a $20 deposit from all attendee’s which will be refunded to them at the end of the event.  This basically ensures that you will show up, holds you accountable, and gives us a clear idea of how many people we can expect so that we don’t overbook the room (the room fits 90 people and could possibly sell out).

There will also be a FREE DRAW for a Lifestyle Transformations In-Field Workshop held on the same weekend after the seminar.

So again, go to http://www.lifestyletransformations.com/freeseminar.php to register your spot.

Here are a few testimonials for those that have attended our events…

“I want to thank Jason, Cheyenne, and Stefan for giving up their time to teach me a few things. They exude a positive light and welcoming energy. What sets these guys apart from others is their philosophy for always giving a value to the world which is genuine and also quite humbling.

If you’re tired of mundane success, and want to quickly and drastically improve your lifestyle, Lifestyle Transformations is true to their name. Check them out.”
    Jason C, Vancouver

“Lifestyle Transformations… offers to help guys get their act together - not just with women, but in all areas of life.”
    The Georgia Straight

“The results speak for themselves. After only a couple of hours of coaching, I was transformed from being afraid of approaching girls, to having absolutely zero fear at all. The following weekend I met many girls during the day and night, without Stefan’s supervision, including one I like a very much, and who I shall meet this weekend. I like to think it was me who made this change in myself, but it wouldn’t have happened without Stefan guiding me.”
    Andrew, Ireland

“Jason and Stefan are two great guys who just want to help the average man achieve success with the female gender. I was amazed by what I learned in terms of scenarios and words that I could say to women, in what I never knew before I met these fine gentlemen. I’m happy I have met Jason and Stefan and the experience I had will always be with me as I continue to find love and happiness.”
    Benjamin the Butler, the Beat 94.5

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Delivering The Goods

Published by Cheyenne on April 2, 2008 in Dating & Relationships, Motivation and Self Improvement. 1 Comment

You may have seen them – those rare men that are excelling at a rapid pace – and you may be wondering what their secret is. I don’t know, and frankly I don’t care. What I do care is that YOU are excelling at a rapid pace. And I’m going to share with you one of the most powerful mindsets to do that, starting TODAY.

Take a moment and think of the last time you were out being social and meeting people.  Now if I was to ask you to tell me with complete honesty and integrity what level you were playing at on a scale of 1-10, would you say 100? In fact, when was the last time you played at a 100? Or worse, have you never played at a 100??

If you want to get good fast you have to push your boundaries every time you go out. Whether its rolling into a group of 9 guys and 1 cute girl, or chasing her down for 6 blocks to make her day, or deciding to get your second and third and fourth wind when things aren’t going your way.

As you’re answering this you may wonder how this translates into results. Your mind has already begun rationalizing that it’s not worth it. What’s the point, after all, you can go and approach this other girl that’s standing there by herself. Easier? Yes, and in the short-term it may seem like the better way to go. But you will deny yourself the most amazing growth and long-term results if that remains your philosophy. This whole thing isn’t about instant results, it’s about what kind of a man you become.

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What is Intimacy?

Published by Jason on March 20, 2008 in Articles, Dating & Relationships and Sex. 4 Comments

For most men, answering that question is more challenging than asking them how to win a game of Connect 4 in 3 moves. Women typically want more intimacy in their relationships, but the problem is that most men do not know what that means. As you can imagine, this is an issue.

If most women say they want more intimacy, we need to know what it is? Out of curiosity, I decided to look in the dictionary. It said things like:

- Close familiarity or friendship: closeness
- Involving very close connection
- Private and personal
- Closely acquainted, familiar, close

Another common misconception is that most men think intimacy just relates to having sex, but do you notice how nothing in that list specifically relates to sex? In modern times, people often use the word intimacy to mean a sexual relations (i.e. I was intimate with her), but intimacy does not necessarily have to be sexual. If you ask a woman about intimacy, you will realize that it is so much more.

So, what is intimacy and how can I have more? Good question!

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The Importance of ‘Practice’

Published by Stefan on March 14, 2008 in Articles, Dating & Relationships, Health & Fitness, Miscellaneous, Motivation and Self Improvement. 1 Comment

Check out the funny video of Allen Iverson saying the word “Practice” something around 25 times.

I think one of the most important principles of success is the concept of PRACTICE.

Remember when you were a “newbie” or a beginner at something, whether it be dance, a sport, or even “the game”?

How did you become good?  How did you improve and attain that level of mastery that you have today?

PRACTICE.

I think most people, myself included, lose value in the simple fundamentals of the game, such as “going out to practice.”

There is no limit to growth.  There is no level where you’re “too good to practice.”  There’s always another level.

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The Opposite of Quitting

Published by Cheyenne on March 11, 2008 in Articles, Dating & Relationships and Self Improvement. 1 Comment

In my last post I told you to quit. I expect that if you haven’t, you went through the three questions and realized in your case you need to do the opposite of quitting – REDEDICATION.

This is an elaborate ritual that involves forgetting the pities of the past, revitalizing your dreams, and coming up with an invigorated gameplan that you can work day in day out. And it has to begin RIGHT NOW.

If you’re wondering whether its possible to begin later – maybe tomorrow –instead, stop and answer me this: Would you put off breathing or eating until tomorrow? This is YOUR LIFE we’re talking about, and WHO YOU ARE ABOUT TO BECOME. How dare you put that off for one more day? You’re astonishing and can’t afford to squander.

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It May Be Time To Quit.

Published by Cheyenne on March 4, 2008 in Articles, Dating & Relationships and Motivation. 1 Comment

Quit right now.

No, this isn’t a joke, nor is it a fiendish application of reverse psychology. Instead it is some advice that has the potential to transform your life.

You’ve been on this path to becoming a better man, becoming better with women, and you don’t have the results. Who is to say you ever will? Who is to say you’re going to break through your plateau? If you just kept with it and persevered it’s going to happen. Right? WRONG. That’s playing it safe. After all, you’ve invested so much in this area - time, money, effort. And while I respect that, let me also hit you with some truth: Not only don’t you have the guts to quit, but you’re sucking it up and TRYING TO AVERAGE your way to success - what a waste of your days!

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