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I used to be a heavy drinker (and I mean lots!). I would go out to a party and bring a 26 oz bottle of rum if I wanted to take it easy, and a 40 oz bottle if I wanted to get drunk. Yup, I had a talent for drinking.

People loved me when I drank because I was a fun, stupid guy who did whatever and didn’t care. Having said that though, I could never get women to take me seriously or be interested in me. They knew I was drunk and probably thought I was just talking to them because I wanted to get laid (and there was probably some truth to that). Obviously, that’s not a good mindset for women to have when you’re trying to get to know them.

What I realize now is that I was covering up for something when I drank. Like most men, I thought it made me more social and I didn’t get as nervous about approaching women. In my head, I thought drinking was good because it made me more comfortable.

This comfort came at a hefty price though. Even though, I felt better approaching, the interactions went nowhere. I was the funny drunk guy that women would talk with, but that’s where it ended. In essence, I was masking my insecurity in social settings with alcohol, and it only made the problem worse.

I was fed up with not having any success with women when I was out. Thankfully, when I stopped drinking (and made other changes), I started improving.  It was hard in the beginning, but as my confidence and skills increased, I found that I could be that same fun guy without being drunk. Needless to say, my interactions with women also improved DRAMATICALLY. I quickly realized that meeting women is much more fun than having a few drinks. Once I realized the difference it made to be sober and started having more successful interactions, there was no going back!!

I find that this is a problem most men have. They drink to get over their approach anxiety, but what you need to realize is that, like me, you’re really making the problem worse. It might be easier to approach, but the interactions aren’t going to be very successful because you’re drunk and people don’t take you seriously.

The good news is that you can learn to be that fun, social, carefree guy, without drinking! Almost every night that I’m out now people think I’m drunk because I’m playful, being social with everyone and having fun. I’m that same guy I was when I drank, but now I do it sober. High quality women appreciate this much more and I have many great interactions because of it.

Just like me, you don’t need to be drunk to have fun. I talk to so many guys who say they need a drink to get going. Why? It’s only making it worse!! Work on your inner self and you can have just as much fun (if not more) when you’re sober.

Hope this help,

Jason
Executive Coach
Lifestyle Transformations

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