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My name is Sean and I used to be addicted to women.

The story begins 6 years ago when I was burned by two girlfriends in a row. I was dating them each for a year and both of them ended up cheating on me. I was motivated to improve myself and that is what lead me to finding the community. Even though I was a pretty cool guy in Highschool playing hockey and knowing the cool people, I never had that much success with girls and when I did get one they would fuck someone else!

I stumbled upon ASF and through the wingman meetup forum I was introduced to Stefan of Lifestyle Transformations. Stefan wanted to improve his life because he was lonely and tired of just playing video games and eating junk food.

When we met Stefan was shy, timid and quiet. He was the definition of a geek. When I met him I was thinking “I’m going to learn how to pickup women with this guy?” He introduced me to Cheyenne, John, Scott and a few others. Together we got the Vancouver Lair started with another guy by the name of Ron. We decided to go our separate ways from Ron to focus on improving ourselves.

We went out 6 and sometimes 7 nights a week. The beginning was rough. We couldn’t even ask an ugly girl on the street for directions or the weather. We spent 10 hours a day in malls, on the street, in coffee shops, in nightclubs all ‘peacocked’ out. We would talk to hundreds of people per day. We did this for 6 months straight. No rest for the weak!

We all improved quickly. The changes I saw in Stefan and Cheyenne from day one to the 6 month, 1 Year and 2 year marks were amazing. At the end it got to the point that we could talk to anyone and own any situation. I was happy with my abilities so I got a long term girlfriend and stepped back from the community.

It became natural for me. Interacting with women was part of who I am. Since leaving the community I have met some amazing women and had some great relationships. As my self improvement continued, so too did the quality of the women that I could land. Last year I met a girl named Colette and had the most amazing relationship I have ever had. It lasted a year and she was such a beautiful person inside and out. She was the type of girl that would make a room stop everything and look at her. She radiated beauty, had an incredible body and the best part is that she was a total sweety. To hammer home my point this is her: http://profile.ak.facebook.com/v222/254/99/s501381211_6441.jpg

After an emotional last month I decided to end things with her and move along. She had some habits and addictions that I didn’t like. Consequently, I went on a tear as I have done in the past, sleeping with every hot girl that would come my way. I would always be with women and would be sleeping with a new one every week if not more. These girls were top notch too!

After a month of being on a tear I realized that I wasn’t happy. Sleeping with and casually dating hot women is fun but wasn’t fulfilling and I couldn’t figure out why. The reason is because I was using the validation of being with / sleeping with hot women to distract myself from some other stuff that wasn’t going well in my life: my finances and my emotional / spiritual side.

Cheyenne and John called me up one day and told me that I had to stop dating / sleeping with women. I fought it but I eventually gave in and realized that they could be right. I could be making women my primary focus to distract me from other things that needed attention. It was tough to tell the girls that I couldn’t see them anymore, but that was exactly what I did back in September. Since then I haven’t dated or slept with anyone….(okay…one exception).

The results of this a few months later have surprised me:

1) I’m making great progress on the other areas of my life that need attention. This makes me feel great and makes me a lot more fufilled overall. And a byproduct of this is that…

2) Now that I have taken the importance of women out of my life, I am attracting a way HIGHER quality of woman.

Its fascinating! I let go out the outcome and now I don’t care what happens when I am interacting with a girl. What happens is I am in the moment and we have more fun. We’ll talk about anything and what ends up happening is girls have been persuing me like crazy. The harder I pull away for my personal reasons, not wanting to date right now, the harder they persue.

Furthermore, because I am not trying to take something from these girls (a number, a date, sex, validation of hanging out with them because they are the hottest girl in the club….etc) I am now becoming good friends with a few of them. To show you the type of girls I’m talking about I will post a few pictures of my friends:

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These girls are BC Lions cheerleaders, architects, bartenders at the best clubs, radio personalities on radio stations that you listen to, world travelers etc. Its great having friends like this and its great also focusing on myself for once. Its awesome….the more I focus on improving my life the more attractive I become to women!

To focus on myself I decided to go to the Tony Robbins UPW seminar. I took so much away from this seminar this past weekend. Here are the big changes I’ve implemented:

- Every day since UPW I have been doing my “Hour Of Power”. I get up early and the first thing that I do is get out of bed and start jumping around to get my lymph system going and to wake me up. I get some water with some lemon in it and drink it as I get dressed. I go outside and make my way up to this street in my neighbourhood that overlooks the entire city. On the way I go over four things:

1) everything I’m greatful for
2) how exciting the future is going to be and what I want it to be
3) my old beliefs and how they are BS and the truth is….!!!!
4) celebrate being me

I’m standing there yelling and singing with my ipod on. People are walking by, looking at me, stopping in their car. I love it! I have become an example of what people want to be: happy and full of energy!
This charges up my emotions and gets the momentum going for the day. If you guys aren’t doing this yet, try it!

- Being a vegetarian, sort of. I decided that for 30 days Im not going to eat any meat, dairy or anything unhealthy. I will live by Tony’s health rules for 30 days. I’m hoping that by the 30 day mark it will be habit. This includes booze as well. I put Tony’s food combination sheet in my kitchen. I am going to buy a ton of vegetables later today!

So far I have had more energy than I have EVER had. EVER! I am eating salad, cucumber, broccoli, vitamins for breakfast and keeping eating healthy throughout the day. If I’m in a situation with a women or something and there is wine involved I may have a glass. If I’m stuck somewhere and the only thing to eat is chicken, I not 100% against doing that. I still plan to eat fish because I love sushi too much not too. But even with these small lapses in my commitment, I am living a 1000 times healthier life than before!

- Drinking lots of water with Lemon and being conscious of my PH. Yesterday I was feeling fatigued in the afternoon after getting a lot of work done in the am. I took Tony’s advice and took a bunch of deep breaths, and drank some water with a lot of lemon in it. I went back to my work and 15 mins later I was BUZZING. I just stopped my work and thought wow….I feel great. All that I can attribute it to is hydrating myself and making my body more alkaline from the 3 slices of lemon I had in it.

- Celebrating often. Every time I have any small reason to celebrate I will. Even when I don’t have a reason too and I think about it, I will celebrate. YES! Life is so sweet why not?

- I have given up TV and surfing the internet.

- I have made a commitment to breaking any state that doesn’t help me in my quest for happiness and LOVE. Any time I doubt myself, get angry at something, feel frustrated or discouraged, I will break the pattern however I can. THATS BULLSHIT. THE TRUTH IS…..YES! seems to work really well so far. I really want to keep this going and make supportive thinking (as opposed to destructive thinking) a routine!

- Ice cold shower before bed. I tried this the other night and its a BITCH to get in but Tony is right, it made me pass right out. Try it!

- I did my Gap Map with Patrick and Cheyenne two days ago. I have it up on my wall now and I have decided to do one every 2 weeks to keep me regularly assessing my progress.

- I made decisions for myself:

1) I am a LEAN MEAN MONEY MAKING MACHING. Money comes easily to me!
2) I am a small business MACHINE! Business and Money come easily to me!
3) I am going to make time for my passions: Hockey, Music, Reading, Surfing, Quality time with people I love, Dancing and time in quiet for myself.
4) I am going to attend and easily pay for the Tony Robbins Date With Destiny in Orlando on December 11th!

- I am dedicated to surrounding myself with upbeat, loving, positive, fun, outgoing, successful people like everyone at the UPW event. I want to stay close with you guys. I am going to rely on you to keep me on track sometimes and to pump me up. Patrick and I have been doing this. We’ve been calling each other whenever anything good happens and to tell each other about our outstanding days. When I get that call from Patrick with good news it pumps me up and I love sharing my successes with him as well!

In conclusion:
The best part about all of these changes is that they felt totally natural. I haven’t had to fight watching tv or eating shit food. Its been a natural change and its a change that needed to happen. I FEEL GREAT!

I know that a dip will come in this new lifestyle of mine. At some point my old life of junk food, TV, thinking negatively, doubting myself and my old belief system will try to creep back. I am looking forward to it. I am going to learn into it. When challenges step up, I STEP UP!

In the end what I hope you guys take away from this is that the more you improve the other areas of your life, your interactions with women and the quality of women that you interact with will improve. It was extremely important for me to go through the process of learning how to meet women with Cheyenne, Stefan and the rest of the guys because that is what got me started. Everything I have in my life right now can be attributed from the skills I learned by actively working on my social skills.

Once you get these essential life skills handled you won’t need to have women as your focus. This is where you want to be. You focus on your life and your life improves. The more dedicated you are to what you are doing in your life, the more quality women will be attracted to you. The more results you get in life (accomplishments, money etc) the more women will be attracted to you. Its a snowball effect. Once you get the ball rolling, the women won’t stop! They just keep getting better and better and chase me harder and harder! Keep in mind though that until you get your social skills and mindset down through practicing and coaching from men who know, money and acomplishments will never get you the kind of woman that you truely desire. Only hitting the streets and learning how to interact with women will!

Start today! Get out there! The world is yours

~ Sean

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