Are you an achiever? Are you constantly pushing yourself to grow and evolve?
If you’re like me, then the answer to the above is a resounding yes. Let’s continue…
Do you often find yourself stressed or exhausted?
Be completely honest…
When was the last time you did absolutely nothing?
Now when I say absolutely nothing I don’t mean procrastinating on facebook, but consciously not doing anything and being 100% ok with it. If I lost you, I ask that you bear with me as I take you through a secret of life that wasn’t clear to me until recently.
Think about what makes life worth living. It’s not the achievements and trophies or the number of girls you slept with, but rather the moments where you felt on top of the world, where you felt fulfilled, where you felt loved and were giving love to those around you. That’s what life is about!
If your journey is one of constant go-go-go and pushing yourself hard, you’ll have a dampened experienced when those moments arrive. Or worse, you don’t even recognize it because you’re so caught up. STOP
Hey, I haven’t updated here in a while. The entire Lifestyle Transformations crew has been super busy with a billion other things going on. But, don’t worry — we haven’t forgot our loyal readers!
I want to quickly talk about a topic that is super common amongst guys that go out to meet people and socialize.
We just recently finished a kick ass 3-day immersion Transformations Bootcamp weekend and the result was incredible. It was a total transformation for each individual that attended. It really is remarkable to witness this stuff and to be responsible for creating such a radical change in someones life.
Anyway, one of the most common sticking points that guys face is getting too logical and stuck inside their heads.
It’s that compulsive thinking that prevents you from flowing and being completely spontaneous, in the moment.
People are too busy getting caught up inside their heads — THINKING.
I’ve been reading the book The Four Hour Work Week by Timothy Ferriss (book review coming soon) and on the last chapter there is a poem that I really liked. I thought I’d share it with you guys.
It’s called SLOW DANCE by David L. Weatherford.
SLOW DANCE
Have you ever watched kids
On a merry-go-round?
Or listened to the rain
Slapping on the ground?
Ever followed a butterfly’s erratic flight?
Or gazed at the sun into the fading night?
You better slow down.
Don’t dance so fast.
Time is short.
The music won’t last.
Do you run through each day
On the fly?
When you ask: How are you?
Do you hear the reply?
When the day is done,
do you lie in your bed
With the next hundred chores
Running through your head?
You’d better slow down.
Don’t dance so fast.
Time is short.
The music won’t last.
Ever told your child,
We’ll do it tomorrow?
And in your haste,
Not see his sorrow?
Ever lost touch,
Let a good friendship die
Cause you never had time
To call and say, “Hi”?
You’d better slow down.
Don’t dance so fast.
Time is short.
The music won’t last.
When you run so fast to get somewhere
You miss half the fun of getting there.
When you worry and hurry through your day,
It’s like an unopened gift thrown away.
For most men, answering that question is more challenging than asking them how to win a game of Connect 4 in 3 moves. Women typically want more intimacy in their relationships, but the problem is that most men do not know what that means. As you can imagine, this is an issue.
If most women say they want more intimacy, we need to know what it is? Out of curiosity, I decided to look in the dictionary. It said things like:
- Close familiarity or friendship: closeness
- Involving very close connection
- Private and personal
- Closely acquainted, familiar, close
Another common misconception is that most men think intimacy just relates to having sex, but do you notice how nothing in that list specifically relates to sex? In modern times, people often use the word intimacy to mean a sexual relations (i.e. I was intimate with her), but intimacy does not necessarily have to be sexual. If you ask a woman about intimacy, you will realize that it is so much more.
So, what is intimacy and how can I have more? Good question!
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