Hey, I haven’t updated here in a while. The entire Lifestyle Transformations crew has been super busy with a billion other things going on. But, don’t worry — we haven’t forgot our loyal readers!
I want to quickly talk about a topic that is super common amongst guys that go out to meet people and socialize.
We just recently finished a kick ass 3-day immersion Transformations Bootcamp weekend and the result was incredible. It was a total transformation for each individual that attended. It really is remarkable to witness this stuff and to be responsible for creating such a radical change in someones life.
Anyway, one of the most common sticking points that guys face is getting too logical and stuck inside their heads.
It’s that compulsive thinking that prevents you from flowing and being completely spontaneous, in the moment.
People are too busy getting caught up inside their heads — THINKING.
It took me about a week and a half to finish reading Eckhart Tolle’s popular book, titled “The Power of Now” for my 8 Week Book Reading Challenge. I was sure to spend extra time re-reading certain concepts and principles so that I could have a better understanding of his materials.
While difficult to read and comprehend at times, The Power of Now is without a doubt a remarkable book.
I kept hearing more and more about it through friends and other members of the “community“, so I decided to check it out. And, interestingly enough, Eckhart Tolle happens to live in the Kitsilano area in Vancouver (where I live).
The book is written in a cool FAQ (Frequently Asked Questions) fashion. Because spiritual enlightenment can be difficult to understand, he focuses on answering questions from others throughout the book. I found this very useful and it helped me have a clearer understanding of his ideas.
The primary principle in the book revolves around the concept of “being fully present.” Or, in other words, “living in the NOW.”
“Realize deeply that the present moment is all you ever have. Make the Now the primary focus of your life. Whereas before you dwelt in time and paid brief visits to the Now, have your dwelling place in the Now and pay brief visits to past and future when required to deal with the practical aspects of your life situation. Always say “yes” to the present moment. What could be more futile, more insane, than to create inner resistance to something that already is? What could be more insane than to oppose life itself, which is now and always now? Surrender to what is. Say “yes to life — and see how life suddenly starts working for you rather than against you.”
Eckhart talks about how people are constantly thinking compulsively throughout their day-to-day lives. This is what I usually refer to as “stuck inside your head” or in a completely “logical” state of mind.
They’re either thinking about the PAST or the FUTURE, rather than embracing the moment fully for what it is.
In relation to approaching and meeting women, the secret to receiving positive responses and generating high levels of attraction revolve around your emotional state”, or as Eckhart says “being in the moment.”
And, ironically enough, conditioning guys to think less and be more and more “in the moment” is the one thing that is stopping the typical guys I coach from massive success with women and dating. It’s usually because they’ve been CONDITIONED their entire lives to be compulsive thinkers and analytical, and their lifestyles reflect that — for example, sitting at home avoiding parties and social activities to be on the computer.
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