Normally, I’m not one to give people “rules.” Everyone is different and you must be true to yourself, but in this case, I’m going to give you a “rule” that I want you to follow (don’t worry, it’s a simple one though). I’ve spent a great deal of time figuring this out and I wish someone would have told me about it instead of me having to figure it out for myself. That’s what I’m going to do for you today!
The simple rule that you must follow is this:
Don’t do anything for a girl that you wouldn’t do for your best friend.
It might not sound like earth-shattering advice, but it’s a very powerful principle!
For example, if an attractive girl takes off her shoes and asks you to pick them up for her, many men would do it. Conversely, if your best friend took off his shoes and asked you to pick them up, you would look at him like he was crazy and probably just laugh.
Too often men do things hoping to win a girl over and end up becoming a doormat. Women don’t want a doormat. They want someone who stands up for himself and has values and boundaries. Even though a women might tell you she wants someone who does everything for her, in actuality, this is very unattractive to women (right ladies?). Women want a man who is a man.
If you’re doing something and not looking for anything in return, great! However, if you’re doing something nice because you think it will get you something, that’s bad. A woman will see right through this manipulation and can tell that you’re only being nice because you want something. That’s not cool.
As you go through life, don’t do things because you want something in return. Instead, go out and offer value to the world without any outcome in mind. Once you start adopting this philosophy, your social interactions will skyrocket!
Until next time…
Jason
Executive Coach
Lifestyle Transformations
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OK, I’ll follow but I guess that means I’m going to be celibate then!
I think there is a difference between a girl who you know only few days and a girl who you are meeting for years. Also there are some things that a woman want, but you would not do it for your best friend
Like hugging O:-) But only if we are speaking about heterosexual relationships 
I can say, that women want to have a man who want to do everything for her, and showing by this his love, but also they want a strong man too. Of course I don´t mean women who only use the man.