For most men, answering that question is more challenging than asking them how to win a game of Connect 4 in 3 moves. Women typically want more intimacy in their relationships, but the problem is that most men do not know what that means. As you can imagine, this is an issue.
If most women say they want more intimacy, we need to know what it is? Out of curiosity, I decided to look in the dictionary. It said things like:
- Close familiarity or friendship: closeness
- Involving very close connection
- Private and personal
- Closely acquainted, familiar, close
Another common misconception is that most men think intimacy just relates to having sex, but do you notice how nothing in that list specifically relates to sex? In modern times, people often use the word intimacy to mean a sexual relations (i.e. I was intimate with her), but intimacy does not necessarily have to be sexual. If you ask a woman about intimacy, you will realize that it is so much more.
So, what is intimacy and how can I have more? Good question!
Intimacy is about being present in the moment, being open and true to your feelings and sharing vulnerability with someone. It’s about developing an emotional connection and creating a strong bond with another person. It’s “showing up” emotionally and really caring about your partner.
How do I get more intimacy? Another good question!
People develop intimacy by spending time together and showing how much they care about the other person’s feelings. Be authentic, genuine, open with your feelings and express vulnerability in your relationships. Your partner will appreciate this openness and you will share a deeper emotional bond.
If we all strive to have more intimacy in our relationships, life will be much more fulfilling.
Jason
Executive Coach
Lifestyle Transformations
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Duly noted.
Although I appreciate the topic I only partly agree. Plus the post does not mention many of the foremost aspects of intimacy. Intimacy starts with time, the so called quality time a couple spends together. Without time there is no intimacy. Although we often speak about intimate meoments, they are not moments or rather hours. You can’t have intimacy if there are other people around, especially your kids. Moreover intimacy can not be sold or bought, unlike sex or porn.
So to share intimate hours you need to have time. Also you need to know each other. You rarely will have intimacy on an one night stand. This does not mean that you have to be vulnerable. It sounds too negative. Yo have to get rid off your inner armor though. Now then you can start “being intimate”. It can work by sharing stories, memories or reading poems. It can work by talking about your weaknessess. It can work by performing a massage. Sex can develop out of intimcay but it is very important that is is NOT the goal of it.
right on!
Hey there all,
Actually intimacy has little to do with time and all to do with intent.
You can have the most incredible intimate connection in only a fraction of a second if everyone involved is fully present and intentful.
Intimacy is the ability to open wide and lead from the heart and soul. The moment you are completely vulnerable to the person you are with and connected to your heart.
Women can pick up an intimate intent in a flash and they become so moved that their hearts open fully in that time and the love they feel so deep they rarely forget that magical moment.
You can have intimacy with anyone around and in fact should be modeling that to your children. Do not save intimacy for just your primary sex partner, you can be intimate with your friends as well.
True soul connection can never be wrong, or at the wrong time, or in the wrong place.. it is simply move everyone in the vicinity to deeper expression as well.
Take the time to develop the skills needed to become intimacy.
and if you want to know what those are join me for some classes
be amazing
Tanja