This is something that I recently learned that really made sense to me.
When you go out, say to a nightclub, a party, or whatever it may be — your entire experience of that event is 100% based upon what you focus on.
There are only so many things we can consciously focus on at once.
For example, right now you’re probably not focusing on your heart beat, or the many sounds in the room that you’re in, or perhaps certain pain your body may be in (just recently had my wisdom teeth removed ;). There are literally THOUSANDS of things you can focus on right now, besides reading this article on your computer (different objects in your environment, feelings, sounds, etc…).
In the same way, when you go out to a night club, there are thousands of things to focus on as well.
If you begin focusing on everyone sitting around, being bored, not having fun, the fact the club is empty, etc… then you’re going to leave that place and your experience of it was going to be “boring”.
If you begin focusing on how much fun people are having, how great the music is, how there are so many cool things going on at once, how much fun you’re having, etc… then you’re going to leave that place and your experience may be “fun”.
If you begin focusing on how loud the music is, how there’s hardly any attractive women there, how every woman there is with a boyfriend, how the music sucks, how you’re not in a great mood or “state”, how you’re just standing around and other people are probably noticing, how the last girl you talked to rejected you and didn’t want to talk to you, etc… then the experience of that evening is going to be what?? You guessed it… HORRIBLE!
There are literally so many things to focus on at any given moment.
The great news is… you CHOOSE to focus on whatever you want.
The only reason you will ever have a horrible or bad night anytime you go out, is based on the fact that you’re focused on the negative or things that made it horrible or bad.
And the only reason you will ever have a fantastic night is based on the fact you’re focusing on what made it fantastic.
Right now, there are MILLIONS of horrible things going on in the world right now. There are people dying, people stealing, lying, cheating, suffering… half the planet has about $2 a day to live off of. 20% of those people have about $1 a day to live off of. There are millions of people dying from cancer and heart disease. Just look on the news, and I can guarantee you can find something negative to focus on in the world at this very moment.
But at the same time, there are MILLIONS of amazing things going on in the world right now as well. There are people being born everyday, people achieving, people making love, having fun, smiling, giving, laughing… we have so many incredible resources today in this world that gives us incredible privileges (such as the internet). There are people overcoming disease and challenges in life. There are many things growing and evolving.
You CHOOSE what to focus on. Your entire life experience is controlled by what you think, pay attention to, or focus on.
When you go out, no matter how horrible the experience may have been, you should always leave the night, going home and feeling incredible about yourself and amazing about how great the night was. There is literally NO REASON NOT TO!
This concept will contribute to massive growth, happiness, and success in your life.
Stefan
Executive Coach
Lifestyle Transformations
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I couldn’t agree more. What we focus on manifests in our actions and experiences. It is also our choice. This is shy we really need to think of good decisions because this is what we focus on that changes whatever it is in our lives.